An informative journey into the secrets of personal relationships guided by Accredited Mental Health Social Worker David of Milan Coaching and his partner of 25 years Debra. Each week David and Debra are joined by a special guest from a many different backgrounds ranging from Doctors to Hypnotherapists, to discuss and offer insight into a great variety of interesting relationship topics such as boundaries, commitment, honesty, fidelity, mental health, family, communication, values, narcissism, trauma, longevity, safety, beginning relationships &amp; even how &amp; when to finish a relationship.

<![CDATA[Mum Lucy opens-up for an in-depth discussion about what she has learnt parenting a child with autism and the relationship challenges.&amp;nbsp;
Lucy describes initially being in serious denial about Autism and what can happen when a partner is not on the same page. How to deal with your own mental health when under stress in the relationship.
What are some of the benifits of being on the Autism spectrum?
What are some of the behaviours that can break intimate relationships?
How to find your happiness and identity within the relationship?
What particular challenges can arise during relationship separation?
What is dating like after a breakup and is it anxiety-provoking chosing a partner?]]>

Mum Lucy opens-up for an in-depth discussion about what she has learnt parenting a child with autism and the relationship challenges.
Lucy describes initially being in serious denial about Autism and what can happen when a partner is not on the same page.

A mum’s relationship journey with a child with Autism

<![CDATA[This episode is all about relationships that people get into but want to exit really&amp;nbsp;quickly.
Katey&nbsp;has approximately 17 years working with relationships and social groups, often where there is a lot of awkwardness, stress and&nbsp;anxiety.
David asks how do you know when someone is not right for you?Katey&nbsp;discusses the body reactions when meeting a person and how this can indicate that the person is not right for you.
Katey&nbsp;also gives suggestions around how to break-off an interaction when you suspect that the person is not right for you, particularly in what she labels narcissistic&nbsp;behaviour.
Katey&nbsp;talks about setting boundaries within relationships and how to compromise yet speak your truth.
David emphasises that how people say things to you is important in relationships&nbsp;and taking the time to explore&nbsp;each&nbsp;others personalities helps you get to know a person much better.]]>

This episode is all about relationships that people get into but want to exit really quickly.
Katey has approximately 17 years working with relationships and social groups, often where there is a lot of awkwardness, stress and anxiety.

With special guest Katey Butler, life coach

<![CDATA[An incredibly raw and in-depth interview with intergenerational family and domestic violence survivor and researcher Jennipher McDonald. A discussion ensues around where the line could be drawn regarding what could be considered domestic violence. Jennipher focuses on exploring self and the possibility to use somatic work such as ‘Theatre for living’ for healing trauma. The team discusses how dance, theatre and other physical activities can help support a new life by focusing on the present moment.]]>

An incredibly raw and in-depth interview with intergenerational family and domestic violence survivor and researcher Jennipher McDonald. A discussion ensues around where the line could be drawn regarding what could be considered domestic violence.

Intergenerational trauma and healing family and domestic violence through somatic types of therapy

<![CDATA[David and hypnotherapist Helen Hart discuss how knowledge of our nervous system can help with our relationship. We are not broken, our emotional regulation system does exactly what it is meant to do! Firstly, exactly how do our childhood experiences inform our adult experiences? Understanding who we are drawn to as partners and calming our nervous system to calm the relationship. The topic of substance use was brought up as a way that some people&amp;nbsp;try to manage their relationship.]]>

David and hypnotherapist Helen Hart discuss how knowledge of our nervous system can help with our relationship.

Nervous system relationship hacks

<![CDATA[David talks with Clinical Hypnotherapist Jamina Tubbing about the main attachment styles and how do we recognise them? How do our childhood attachment experiences set us up for adult relationships?How does our attachment style affect how we engage with friends and significant others?David and Jamina discuss the specialty area of what to do about attachment difficulties within a relationship. They explore how to change your emotional and cognitive state when you have an attachment style that is not working well for you. Also, David and Jamina talk about teamwork when attempting to change a relationship for the better and the importance of taking into consideration as many factors as we can. <h3>Want more information about this episode visit <a href="https://www.mymilan.com.au/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.</a><a href="https://www.mymilan.com.au/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(94, 94, 94);">mymilan.com.au</a></h3> ]]>

How does our attachment style affect how we engage with friends and significant others?

Attachment styles; Do they make or break your relationship?

<![CDATA[Being in the industry of wedding photography (and married!), the team thought what better person to discuss commitment with than Jasmin of Whately photography!The episode discusses ‘what does commitment&amp;nbsp;really mean?’, as well as the different stages of commitment&nbsp;and the reasons why we commit. How seriously do people take commitment?Also, how do we begin a conversation with our partner around commitment, especially if they are adverse to commitment?Do we have to put in less or more as the years go by?What are the levels some people will go to for commitment?All these questions, answers and more.]]>

Being in the industry of wedding photography (and married!), the team thought what better person to discuss commitment with than Jasmin of Whately photography!

All about relationship commitment

<![CDATA[David and Debra talk with special guest&amp;nbsp;Andre about the extremes of trust required in a&nbsp;BDSM lifestyle.The team break-down the concept of trust and discuss what comprises trust; including the importance of checking for ongoing consent.&nbsp; Is there such a thing as complete trust?What happens when trust is broken and where is the line for this?How important are limits and boundaries when it comes to trust?How important is communication for trust?Can emotion be an obstacle for trust?Andre gives examples based on his experience of Polyamorous relationships and Andre shares his trust checklist.]]>

David and Debra talk with special guest Andre about the extremes of trust required in a BDSM lifestyle. The team break-down the concept of trust and discuss what comprises trust; including the importance of checking for ongoing consent.

Trust, Trust and more (or less) Trust?

<![CDATA[The team is joined by Bodo Frost to discuss 'how far is too far?', self-defeating behaviour and the power of role modelling.The question arises, do we condone violence and apologise about it afterwards?&amp;nbsp;How powerful can words be compared with physical behaviour? Once trauma triggers are recognised, what can be done to manage?&nbsp;Bodo gives an explanation of self-defeating behaviours including his five steps to managing self defeating behaviour.&nbsp;The team discusses barriers to identifying and talking about our feelings. How hard is it to express feelings?&nbsp;How important is dialogue in relationships to express feelings?]]>

The team is joined by Bodo Frost to discuss 'how far is too far?', self-defeating behaviour and the power of role modelling.

How far do we go to defend our relationships?

<![CDATA[Special guest Russell talks about his experience and challenges after being placed in more than 30 foster homes.David facilitates in-depth discussion around how the foster system affected Russell&rsquo;s adult relationships; positive and not so good.David discusses how you form relationships when you are removed from your parents as an infant?How do you recognise and break the cycle of abuse when you have grown up in a difficult environment with complex trauma?Longer term impacts on trust and not understanding love.What happens when you can't tell people what happened to you or how you feel.How the body processes emotion and how to address the pastThe difference between suppressing feelings and expressing feelings.How do you forgive? How important is love for healing? How do you develop trust? How do you repair broken relationships?]]>

David facilitates in-depth discussion around how the foster system affected Russell’s adult relationships; positive and not so good.

Building relationships after (traumatic) foster care

<![CDATA[David and Debra have a chat with filmmaker Jeremy Mullaly of Ithaka Media about his take on on-screen relationships, including some impacts of reality TV on relationships. For the stars, questions are raised regarding whether reality TV causes trauma and how far is too far for ratings? Using the example of MAFS, the team ponders what is reality TV teaching young people about their relationships and are we normalising bad behaviour with ‘reality TV’. For parents, David talks about how to start to have a safe conversation with your family regarding what relationship behaviour that is being seen on TV.]]>

David and Debra have a chat with filmmaker Jeremy Mullaly of Ithaka Media about his take on on-screen relationships, including some impacts of reality TV on relationships.

Onscreen relationships vs Reality

<![CDATA[This episode emphasises the importance of the relationship you have with yourself first.Special guest Jennifer Burke talks with David and Russel about her near death experience and what she learnt from it.Jennifer explains how she changed her life by following four simple guidelines or as Jennifer calls them, ‘the four agreements’. A discussion ensues, breaking down the ‘four agreements’, what each one means in a practical sense and in relation to others.]]>

Jennifer explains  how she changed her life by following four simple guidelines or as Jennifer calls them, ‘the four agreements’.  A discussion ensues, breaking down the ‘four agreements’, what each one means in a practical sense and in relation to others.

How a near death experience helped my relationship with myself and others

<![CDATA[David simplifies boundaries with the 4 golden rules of boundary setting. Discussion ensues around what is the difference between boundaries and limits? How important is it to know your partner’s boundaries? The team also discusses verbal boundaries vs non-verbal boundaries, sticking to what you say, silence as a boundary and how clear boundaries help support long-term relationships.]]>

David simplifies boundaries with the 4 golden rules of boundary setting. Discussion ensues around what is the difference between boundaries and limits? How important is it to know your partner’s boundaries? The team also discusses verbal boundaries vs non-verbal boundaries, sticking to what you say, silence as a boundary and how clear boundaries help support long-term relationships.

Boundary setting; the art and science of setting good boundaries

<![CDATA[Guest Barb opens-up about living with a narcissist and about dealing with some of the power and control issues. The episode also covers some the behavioural traits of a narcissist, how to manage narcissistic behaviour, contingencies and why Barb chooses to stay in the relationship.]]>

David, Debra and special guest ‘Barb’ take a dive into what it’s like to be in a relationship with a narcissist. Deb asks how do we know if someone is really a narcissist and can they change?

Living with a narcissist

<![CDATA[In this Episode, hosts David and Debra take a little time to introduce themselves and briefly talk about some of the challenges faced while being married 25 years.With a special guest Cassie, the theme of this episode revolves around beginning and maintaining a relationship; fast-moving relationships, sticking at it, the death of first love (and holding a candle). Cassie discusses navigating Social media within your relationship and the constant comparisons and the struggle to feel secure in relationship.We also touch on finding relationships face-to-face vs social media, online judging and how dating has changed; monogamy and the legacy of one night stands. Cassie talks briefly about growing-up with social media and questions ‘to post?’ or ‘not to post’? (are some things too important to post?).The episode rounds-off with a discussion around five communication keys for a healthy relationship;<ol><li>Be sensitive,</li><li>Be honest (and understand what honesty means to your partner),</li><li>Create safety,</li><li>See and acknowledge your partner’s perspective and</li><li>Understand that all your words have meaning to your partner (even if you don’t mean it).</li></ol>]]>

The team discuss some of the challenges faced, especially early on in a relationship. Does Social media create more insecurity in relationships and how to reduce insecurity? Five simple keys to growing and maintaining a healthy relationship are explained.

Insecurity and the quest for a healthy relationship

Each week David and Debra are joined by a special guest from a many different backgrounds ranging from Doctors to Hypnotherapists, to discuss and offer insight into a great variety of interesting relationship topics.

Each week David and Debra are joined by a special guest from a many different backgrounds ranging from Doctors to Hypnotherapists, to discuss and offer insight into a great variety of interesting relationship topics 

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