Inside Relationships
An informative journey into the secrets of personal relationships guided by Accredited Mental Health Social Worker David of Milan Coaching and his partner of 25 years Debra. Each week David and Debra are joined by a special guest from a many different backgrounds ranging from Doctors to Hypnotherapists, to discuss and offer insight into a great variety of interesting relationship topics such as boundaries, commitment, honesty, fidelity, mental health, family, communication, values, narcissism, trauma, longevity, safety, beginning relationships & even how & when to finish a relationship.
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In this Episode, hosts David and Debra take a little time to introduce themselves and briefly talk about some of the challenges faced while being married 25 years.
With a special guest Cassie, the theme of this episode revolves around beginning and maintaining a relationship; fast-moving relationships, sticking at it, the death of first love (and holding a candle). Cassie discusses navigating Social media within your relationship and the constant comparisons and the struggle to feel secure in relationship.
We also touch on finding relationships face-to-face vs social media, online judging and how dating has changed; monogamy and the legacy of one night stands. Cassie talks briefly about growing-up with social media and questions ‘to post?’ or ‘not to post’? (are some things too important to post?).
The episode rounds-off with a discussion around five communication keys for a healthy relationship;
- Be sensitive,
- Be honest (and understand what honesty means to your partner),
- Create safety,
- See and acknowledge your partner’s perspective and
- Understand that all your words have meaning to your partner (even if you don’t mean it).
Special guest Russell talks about his experience and challenges after being placed in more than 30 foster homes.
David facilitates in-depth discussion around how the foster system affected Russell’s adult relationships; positive and not so good.
David discusses how you form relationships when you are removed from your parents as an infant?
How do you recognise and break the cycle of abuse when you have grown up in a difficult environment with complex trauma?
Longer term impacts on trust and not understanding love.
What happens when you can't tell people what happened to you or how you feel.
How the body processes emotion and how to address the past
The difference between suppressing feelings and expressing feelings.
How do you forgive? How important is love for healing? How do you develop trust? How do you repair broken relationships?
The team is joined by Bodo Frost to discuss 'how far is too far?', self-defeating behaviour and the power of role modelling.
The question arises, do we condone violence and apologise about it afterwards? How powerful can words be compared with physical behaviour?
Once trauma triggers are recognised, what can be done to manage? Bodo gives an explanation of self-defeating behaviours including his five steps to managing self defeating behaviour. The team discusses barriers to identifying and talking about our feelings. How hard is it to express feelings? How important is dialogue in relationships to express feelings?